Relationship Resources
There is no 'right' way to be in relationship -- these are resources that perhaps can help you reach your relationship vision.
Communication technigues depend on your being to regulate any emotional reactivity you may be experiencing in a conversation. Simply attempting to use these techniques will not in and of themselves keep you from being emotionally reactive. If these techniques don't work or make things worse, don't use.
All these techniques must be used in a neutral tone of voice - without suppressed anger, sarcasm, or mocking tones.